One of the signs that you’re ready to get married is that you have a strong and long-lasting emotional connection with your partner. However, it’s common to feel like you’re not close to your partner even though you might love them deeply. Sometimes, in the event of major losses or during a difficult period of your life when you’re battling your own personal struggles, your relationship may suffer.
If you’re someone who struggles to open up to others and feel deprived of a loving relationship in your life, consider these following ways to connect with your partner emotionally.
Be empathetic toward others
Never underestimate the importance of practicing deep empathy for your partner and making a conscious effort to do so. It’s alright if you feel like you need to learn how to practice empathy and it doesn’t come naturally to you. It’s a sign of your willingness to work on yourself and toward a happy relationship.
Extend empathy for your partner especially when you can tell they’re struggling. Even in the height of conflict, if you take a moment to step back and put yourself in their shoes, you can save your relationship.
Practice active listening
Listening actively is a skill that we need to practice more often to improve all our relationships. Engage your partner in the conversation and listen to validate their feelings and experience. Some ways to practice active listening are to let your partner speak without interrupting. Ask them probing questions to get a deeper insight into whatever is being discussed.
Don’t threaten to leave the relationship
If you truly want to build a relationship with someone, you should avoid succumbing to tactics such as threatening to leave them over petty issues. In times of conflict, take the opportunity to show up for your partner and display a willingness to resolve the matter amicably and mutually. Work on building boundaries for yourself so that it can be easier for you to avoid exhausting yourself emotionally.
Communication may seem like an arduous process, but it’s vital to sustaining healthy relationships and integral to a happy marriage. It’s also okay to admit that you need help working on your communication. Sometimes, a neutral opinion explored through relationship counselling helps. I help families and couples across Palo Alto, offering couples counseling and various services online.
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