Sex is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship, and when your sex life takes a backseat or hits bumps along the road, it can really take a toll on things. Human beings need sex as a form of intimacy, commitment, closeness, stress relief, emotional and physical connection, and so much more.
When you’re missing out on that, it can land you in a dark, difficult place.
We often don’t realize how much of an impact our busy schedules and work have on our sex life and intimacy with our partners. It’s draining, difficult, and incredibly challenging to talk about, but here are some signs that stress and work could be holding you back:
Stress can negatively affect your hormones
Stress is known to be the cause of various health issues and concerns and has the ability to affect not just your cortisol levels but also your other hormones and trigger a trauma response that makes it difficult or sometimes impossible to experience arousal. If you’re frequently stressed out as a result of work, it might be why you’re less interested in sex, your libido is low, or you’re struggling with sexual performance.
Excess work drains your physical and mental energy
You know when you’re so exhausted, even the thought of sex is impossible to muster up? It’s not uncommon to be burnt out and mentally, physically, and emotionally drained from long work hours, stress, pressure, and other challenges, which can make their way into your bedroom. The good news, however, is that you can overcome your fatigue and exhaustion and revive your sex life.
You might project work stress onto your relationship
We’ve all been guilty of lashing out at our partners, kids, or anyone else who comes our way when really we’re mad at something or someone else. The stress you feel because of your workload may very easily surface during an argument, a fight, or even while talking to your partner, affecting your sex life immensely. In fact, the less sex you have, the more likely you are to fight!
Life in Silicon Valley is fast-paced and takes a toll on even the healthiest relationships. You’re not alone if your sex life isn’t where it used to be or where you want it to be. You can always work around your challenges as a couple, whether it’s because of work, kids, stress, or just the day-to-day issues you’re faced with. Get in touch with us for sex and relationship counseling, marriage counseling, and various other services in Palo Alto. Work with us to improve your relationship and make it more fulfilling for both of you.