Your low self-esteem can creep into different aspects of your life and cause great trouble. It is especially problematic in a relationship. People with low self-esteem are prone to self-sabotaging their relationships simply because their lack of confidence begins impacting their ability to communicate with their partners.
Here’s how your low self-esteem is affecting your relationship:
1. You Find It Challenging To Express Yourself
When you’re unable to speak your mind and are walking on egg shells around your partner simply because you don’t want to start a conflict, it’s going to start to take a toll on your emotional health and your relationship.
Open communication is necessary for a healthy relationship. It’s crucial that you express your thoughts without any hesitancy. By not speaking your mind you may begin developing resentment toward your partner without realizing it.
Working on your self-esteem will help you build the confidence you need to express your emotions without fearing conflicts.
2. You’ll Be Taken For Granted
You don’t need to be in a relationship to know that poor self-esteem gives people the green light to walk all over you. People with low self-esteem have trouble standing up for themselves. They don’t know how to say “no” and struggle with setting boundaries.
People tend to mistreat other’s who can’t stand up for themselves so unless you’re willing to be more assertive in the relationship, don’t be surprised if you’re constantly taken advantage of.
3. You’ll Have Lackluster Relationship
People with low self-esteem have a tendency to play the victim. They feel like no matter what they do, their circumstances won’t change and as a result they don’t make an effort at all.
When you have low self-esteem, it may cause you to make mistakes in your relationships. One of these mistakes is not putting enough energy or effort into your relationship, because you feel like it doesn’t matter anyway.
4. It Causes Misunderstandings
Poor self-esteem and misunderstandings go hand in hand. People with low self-esteem don’t correct others and let them assume that everything is fine even when it isn’t. When you have low self-esteem you have a tendency to believe things that simply aren’t true; this, once again, causes resentment to build up over time.
Working on your self-esteem allows you to be more vocal so your partner knows exactly how you’re feeling. You can address misunderstanding before they start causing problems between the both of you.
A seasoned psychotherapist can help you address issues that may have caused your self-esteem to plummet over the years. They can suggest techniques and give you the tools to build your self-esteem over time so you can enjoy a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Azizeh Rezaiyan is a therapist at Silicon Valley Marriage Counselling based in Palo Alto in the Bay Area. Azizeh has many years of experience under her belt and has a knack for handling complex cases with great sensitivity. She specializes in couple’s counselling, family meditation, anxiety treatments and other psychotherapy treatments.
Call (650) 206-9973 to book an appointment.